Strippers, dancers, hustlers, whatever you may call them, they are everywhere. From rap lyrics to rap stars themselves to actresses to an upcoming movie staring the one and only JLo (I used to work at Scores NYC), strippers are really making a come back. I never thought that I would see the day where we dancers were in the public eye, and so freely, but is society as accepting as it seems?

stripper to hair stylist

This is me at the lovely NYC Club I worked at taking a selfie in the bathroom in the floor length gowns you had to wear.

Recently my husband started a new job, and like all new jobs, people get to know you and your family, and what you are all about essentially. I had been to a few work functions and met a few of his coworkers, and I definitely hit it off with some more than others, but there aren’t many women in the finance industry, so in my bright red cleavage dress, I may have stood out. Time passes, and my husband gets a call from another work associate, and someone is questioning his character, and saying, “Well you know traders, fast cars, fast women.” And I have never been shy, nor has my husband that we met in a VIP lounge for a 3 song dance and fell in love and have been inseparable for 7 years. So the fact that someone who has nothing to say about my husbands work ethic, talents or attributes, but has the nerve to throw me under the bus, because I was a dancer, that I am a “FAST WOMAN” is just ignorant. I was a dancer, and yes that is how I met my husband, but what does that have to do with anything? I am shocked at how people even in this day and age when CARDI B is on the top of the pop charts and their daughters are singing along to the songs, but to actually know a person in your real life and try to discount them is disgusting.

stripper to hair stylist

No, its not an ankle monitor, its cash. You aren’t allowed to carry your money in a purse because you might sell drugs out of it, so you have to carry it on your ankle and prey you don’t lose any.

This isn’t the first time I had experienced discrimination, I had worked somewhere where I wasn’t allowed to talk to my clients who were dancers about dancing or my past dancing period. So as not to offend anyone who might be ease dropping. And can I also mention that we said nothing explicit or sexual, my client doesn’t even give lap dances or dance in less than a bikini, but our conversation was required to be restricted. I, of course, stood up against this discrimination for myself and my client, crying by the end of it, hurt by the fact that people that I once thought cared about me to me that if I didn’t cooporate I was free to go. If we had been any other minority being victimized by this bias, then the salon would have stood by us right? BUT because we are WOMEN and DANCERS, our conversations are not welcome. There are 400,000 strippers in the US, and that’s tiny when you consider 10 million adults identify as LGBT. So why not pick on the strippers?They are not big enough to cause a fuss when their rights are inflinged, right? Uh not this girl. When are dancers going to have the same respect as other minorities? The stripper community has been under-supported and treated with bias for too long and I am fed up!

Every stripper has a dancer bag, this is where your shoes, lingerie and cash all start to take on the same smell.

Stippers are not bad people, and the fact that people still are hating on them is so narrow minded. Did you know that 1 in 3 strippers are actually putting themselves through college? I was enrolled in college most of my years as a dancer and I had many other jobs while moonlighting at the club. I even danced while being an assistant, because who can work 60 hours a week at minimum wage and afford to eat? Some of the dancers I met were some of the hardest working people I have ever met, that are just trying to make a living like anyone else. You have to be smart to actually make it as a successful stripper, its not as easy as you’d think. The average income of a stripper is $70,000 to $100,000, and yet we are seen as unprofessional? It is time to start thinking differently and for our community to be represented fairly.

Everyone has a selfie in the backroom, this is the only one I could find without a naked girl checking her tampon in the background.
Everyone has a selfie in the backroom, this is the only one I could find without a naked girl checking her tampon in the background.

I am just sick of all the ignorance and prejudice toward good women trying to make an honest living and be happy and accepted. Let’s all rise up and have a voice, and not feel ashamed of who we are. We are people and I will not shut up, and I will be proud.

Favorite part of the night, cashing out.